3 hacks to overcome guilt in your life

Are you guilty of what you have done or said in your long past and still not able to move on? Do you still feel bad about anything said, or done, an abrupt reaction, or an intentional or unintentional mistake done and that has strained the relationship with your close ones?

Some mistakes create a scar within us, in such a way that we might never forget it.  It usually hurts when it is an unintentional one which turns out to be fatal and triggers whenever we come across similar situations or when we meet that same person again.

These memories linger without apparent cause, as humans often experience memory flashes and frequent moments of Deja Vu. Our brains link to the emotions from our past experiences, creating a connection that persists over time.

But we do know that it’s a piece of worthless baggage we carry and is a knockback to our good days. Let us discuss 3 things that can help to tackle this:

1.       Take your time

A mistake happened on your part, despite your efforts to fix it, but unfortunately ended up with no purpose, is challenging to accept. But give that time to yourself, cry if you feel like, and give yourself a good space to get back. If you find yourself grappling with the aftermath of a breakup, I am sorry for you, but you have to realize that you had a good life when you were single and build confidence in yourself.

2.       Be easy on yourself

Don’t think that it happened all because of you, and it was your fault and your fault alone! Make yourself understand that a lot of things are beyond our control and everything happens for a reason. If you come across similar situations or get to meet the same person in the future, face them with a gentle smile rather than ignoring them. And take it easy if they don’t smile back, Bravo!! You have done a great job they can’t even imagine!

3.       Count the multiples of 6 or 7 in mind!

This might be something skeptical. But let me tell you how this is relevant if nothing of the above works, and this trick can be used if nothing else is working out and this is a temporary hack. Numerous studies demonstrate that intense focus on a task leads to the tendency to overlook one's surroundings. Recalling multiplication tables for 6 and 7 was quite challenging during our early primary classes, and now it is totally out of question! The concentration required for such calculations serves as a distraction from mind blocks, making it easier to deal with this.

Do try out any of the above hacks and let me know what works best for you. And most importantly, love yourself!